Updated: Jan 11
Hello, Thank you and welcome back to Healing Minds. A place where we work on our mental strength daily to life a healthy life.
I found a book in my garage, dusted it off and decided to get some positive inspiration to share with you. It was given to me over a decade ago and of course the best storage place is always the garage. It is the Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren.
It is based on a religion, but I am not sharing it connected to any religion. I don’t follow a religion, but care for spiritual or purposeful growth. I want to make it applicable to all as we are human and not a religion.
We will ask ourselves several times in our lifetime, "What is the Purpose of My Life?" It doesn’t start and end in our 20's, it continues throughout your existence on Earth.
I will share 5 points you can start to think about in your life. This is meant to inspire and move you in a positive direction. Then I will give my interpretation of each point.
1. Everyone’s life is driven by something. People can be driven by guilt, resentment, anger, fear, materialism, or a need for approval. The most important is having a purpose filled life which gives meaning to your life. Without a clear purpose you have no foundation on which to base decisions, allocate your time, and use your resources. It is supposed to simplify your life. You become effective in becoming selective and your effort and energy toward something that’s important. Purpose is crucial to a meaningful life and it is not aimless to change course a few times. As women we may change several times in life as that is the nature of the world. Circumstances may change and our interest in a vocation, hobbies, goals, or path chosen will shift also. There is no designated age where we have it figured out and will be steady for the rest of our lives whether in a relationship, vocation, or interests. We have to understand that can change at any time. We pursue purpose based on the course our life has presented, then focus and dedicate to what is in front of us and move forward with it. 2. People experience sympathy. Sympathy is not giving advice or offering quick, cosmetic help; sympathy is entering in and sharing the pain of others. Sympathy says, “I understand what you’re going through, and what you feel is neither strange nor crazy. It meets two fundamental human needs: the need to be understood and the need to have your feelings validated.
Our lives our so frantic and we get caught up in our bubble that we may not sympathize with another who has experienced pain. Perhaps we are aloof, don’t care, or too busy with ourselves. Whether a friend, family member, acquaintance, co-worker, neighbor, or even an immediate stranger, express your understanding of another’s pain without giving advice. This takes a few seconds or minutes. I noticed this during my grief period and viewed the lack of caring or acknowledgement of a couple of people in my life. 3. Restore a relationship. Always take the initiative. It doesn’t matter whether you are the offender or the offended. Make the first move. Don’t wait for the other party. Go to them first. Delay only deepens resentment and makes matters worse. In conflict, time heals nothing; it causes hurts to fester.
If there is a relationship that has been strained and you want to reestablish it, make the first contact. Perhaps the other person is afraid or has been consumed with life and forgotten how to reconnect. This must be someone you truly can forgive and want to do this, otherwise it is best to stay away. If they have no interest or show no kindness, then at least you tried and know this is someone that should be permanently out of your life.
4. Everything on earth has its own time and own season. Today we are obsessed with speed, but interest should be more in strength and stability than swiftness. We want the quick fix, the shortcut, the on the spot solution. We want an experience that will instantly resolve all problems, remove all temptation, and release us from all growing pains. Growth is gradual. We are slow learners as problems reoccur and we revert back to old behaviors. We have a lot to unlearn. We are afraid to face the truth of ourselves. Growth is often painful and scary and habits take time to develop.
If you have a pain or problem in life, most likely it has been created at one point in your life and it is part of you. It is not something you just get rid of it whether alone or with help. It is a process that takes time and healing and acceptance. It may be part of your experience, but it won’t be part of your existence. Growth hurts especially if you have to resolve hurts that require acceptance and working on your mental strength daily that this won’t scare me to become the best version of myself.
5. You were made for a mission. Fulfilling your life mission on earth is an essential part of living. Your mission is a wonderful privilege. Although it is a big responsibility, also it is a great honor to be used for it. Fulfill your mission on earth so you will not have wasted the life given to you. It’s easy to get sidetracked and distracted from your mission because it’s easy to do anything else then this mission.
You are made for a mission whether you know it now or not. Your mission can change through your lifetime, but you are here for something that is in you and you must do. That is something personal to you and it is made for your uniqueness where your focus will arise as you know the importance. Those were some healing minds tips to use today inspired by the book The Purpose Driven Life which is based on Christianity, but the religious aspect has been removed and practicality has been left for all to apply in their lives.
Hopefully something inspired you to move forward in life while building your mental strength daily.
If you have any comments, feedback, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org Thanks so much for joining me and please check out the next episode.
This is Tania, and until next time, A healthy lifestyle begins with the mind.