Healing Minds' purpose is to give you insight and information into improving your mental health. I interview experts in the field of wellness and they provide valuable information from their strong background and experience.

My interview in this episode is with Hillary Foster, a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist who is also a transformation coach for women. She can be found on Instagram @hillaryfoster_mft. Her website is: linktr.ee/hillaryfoster_mft Her background information is below.

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Introduction


Hillary Foster has been a Marriage Family Therapist for 19 years. She works with individuals, couples, and has started to work as a transformation coach. As a transformation coach, she helps women through difficult transitions in life. This involves a three-step process where women go from transition to transformation. This gives them the freedom to live life on their own terms.


She got into the field of psychology trying to understand her family dynamics. Her parents divorced when she was growing up, and her father had bipolar disorder. Hillary started seeing a therapist after receiving her college degree and decided to pursue her Master's degree in Psychology, MFT option.


She married and had kids, but her marriage lead to divorce. Hillary realized that life does not always work the way one intends. There are challenges along the way that changes one's direction. She went from a stay at home mom to moving forward in her spiritual journey toward independence. She also had the challenge of a special needs child, and later facing her older sister's suicide.


She attended a Tony Robbins seminar which motivated her to coach other women in a positive way. She decided to touch lives in a grand way. She started Supportive Sister's Community locally and wants to expand it to reach more women seeking connection.


Interview

1. Can you talk about the three-step process in helping women from transition to transformation?


2. How can women feel more connected during transitions when life changes their relationships?


3. What is subconscious programming?


4. We hear so much about finding our purpose Sometimes people don't understand this and don't feel like they have one. What does purpose mean for you? If you don't feel you have one, how can you discover it?


5. What are the five signs you are in a toxic relationship or friendship?


6. How can a woman leave a toxic relationship without the fear of loneliness or lack of financial resources?


7. What is the best advice to give someone seeking therapy? Where should they start and how to select the best therapist for their condition or situation?


8. You share that limiting beliefs can be passed on from our ancestors which creates our thoughts of good or bad and take that with us. Also, the self-doubt can come up even if you start believing you can do something. How can we overcome limiting beliefs?


9. What is your self-care routine?


10. Final question, I like to ask this question in all my interviews.  Where is one place you have traveled to which you consider as part of your healing journey?


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Healing Minds' purpose is to give you insight and information into improving your mental health. I interview experts in the field of wellness and they provide valuable information based on many years of experience.

My interview in this episode is with Dr. Stephan Poulter, a licensed clinical psychologist, and author. He can be found on Instagram @dr.steve_poulter His website is: www.stephanpoulter.com


Here is Dr. Poulter's background and the questions he answers in this episode.

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Stay tuned for more interviews with wellness experts and women who have undergone their healing journey and living with a positive purpose.


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INTRODUCTION


In this episode, I am going to interview renowned Los Angeles clinical psychologist, author, and speaker, Dr. Stephan Poulter.


Dr. Poulter has been in practice since 1991, treating adolescents and adults.  He has written books such as The Father Factor and The Mother Factor and is a big advocate of guiding one’s journey of healing toward self-acceptance.


His latest book is The Shame Factor. He states that “Self-loathing, low self-esteem, self-hatred, and self-destruction all come from the same well of the shame-driven personality.  The emotional poison in your well is your shame, not you.”


He believes that shame is often misdiagnosed as anxiety and depression and there should be a separate diagnosis created for shame.  Many people’s issues are from fear and anger which shame breeds.  This is when a person’s core self feels defective.  Fear that you are not good enough and anger that you are not capable.  Our core self feels defective leading to the depression never getting better and being in that chronic state of not feeling good enough.  The power of self-acceptance creates a shift to get to the core issues.

Interview Questions

We are going to talk about your latest book, The Shame Factor and how shame impacts women.

1.  What is your meaning of the word “Shame”?


2.  Why is shame an important emotion to work through?

3.  You state that “Men externalize their toxic shame.  Women internalize their toxic shame.”  Can you give us some examples on the gender differences of shame?

4.   We talk so much about how bad shame is, but there is also good shame. You state that “Good shame is purposeful and empowering.”  Can you give some examples of good shame?


5.  There are seven classic triggers of the shame cycle. They are:


a. Fear of Embarrassment

b. Feeling Angry, Invisible, or Worthless

c. Imposter Syndrome

d. Feeling Isolated

e. Suspicious

f. Fear of Intimacy

g. Fear of Criticism

Many of us have experienced several of these triggers in our lives.  Let’s discuss a few of these triggers and how it impacts a woman's life, and one step they can take to work on the trigger.

a.  First, imposter syndrome which is a term we have heard of multiple times.  How does it hinder a person’s growth? Can you give one way to improve this trigger? b.  Another trigger of shame can be fear of intimacy, please share more about this. c. How does the fear of criticism trigger shame?

6.  You also discuss the journey within oneself or reaching your core self.  “All inward journeys start with fear and end with you being empowered.”  Before self-improvement can happen you first have to accept yourself.  Can you briefly discuss your five-step acceptance process?

a. Roadblocks within you b. No perfectionism-life is messy c. Accepting change in your life-It's not personal d. Taking personal responsibility for your life e. The power of empathy and self-forgiveness


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